Letting you all go

I am in my hometown Kuwait from a month now, I returned after almost a year n a half of Dubai and yes!! it is a welcome change from the every day routine of a "drama queen of a housewife" that I have become (that's right I could exaggerate for hours about any silly thing).  And I was very much excited to come back and spend time with old friends and unwind a bit, organize those reunions and chat about those old days that I miss so much.....But alas!! it looked like I was the only one who was excited about it.

After a lot of unanswered texts and calls, I decided to blog about it...

 I wondered, how I lost so many of my friends that I used to have, many of them colleagues and many from school/college..... is it me or them?? Am I too difficult to hang out with, (given two kids) or have they found better cooler friends??  has my absence made them immune to my charms??

Then I remembered that one time, I had asked my mom as to why she does not go out with her friends instead of always being with us and she had said, she forgot to make friends while she was busy raising us. I knew my question had made her cry and that's why I don't want to be in that situation ever!!

Agreed, raising kids is not an easy thing, and there is not a single minute where you are not preparing for the next thing on the "to-do list" or saving a situation from going out of control..  but I don't want to end up friendless ever. That's why I am gonna let go off of all you old friends who don't want to keep in touch anymore and make myself some new friends. You all can enjoy your jobs, boy friends, cars and vacations while I try to make some mommy friends who can kick ass!!

....and just like that I became wise

Being a mother teaches you a billion of things and in a year and four months of being a mom, I've had constant back ache,  sleepless nights and many regrets but the most important lesson that I've learnt are:

1. NOT TO JUDGE

I have had moments where I wanted to gag my kid from crying (but I dint, I swear), I have had times where I ve eaten their bowl of cerelac coz I was so hungry and tired to get anything for myself, and there was a weak moment when I wanted to bite one of them to stop her from pulling other ones hair (domestic violence) etc. Therefore, I will not judge any ladies with kids from here on onwards, as I know It turns you into an animal whose characteristics are not drawn out yet.

So am sorry for judging that lady at my masjid dinner gathering who ate too fast and packed a big box of food as takeaway.
and also that lady who was always in such a ghastly mess in terms of her grooming and always carried the same bag
and yes sorry for all the times that I thought "why do they even get out of the house"

2. DONT EVER LOOSE YOUR COOL

You will be faced with millions of situations and people who can make you snap and turn you into a fire spitting dragon then go on do that, BITCH slap them. But not when you are a mom because it will directly affect the kids, they sense every tone and mood swing that you go through and then they imitate that tone with you. (my kids talk gibberish and yell back at me sometimes) That's why I have stopped loosing my cool and am a pretty happy person to hang out with (try, it might even annoy u)

When they make a mess, I click pictures....when they fall down I carry them....When they get hit by other kids, I tell them to be strong....When they don't eat, I eat it.

3. NEVER COMPARE

Stop comparing your life, your comforts, your husbands and most importantly your kids with others. None of them are alike and you can make the best of what you have once you decide. period.

Everybody has stories and we all have our pains and joys, so just stop sulking about someone's Facebook check-ins while you are sulking alone at home.

4. NO COUNSELING SESSIONS PLEASE

Earlier I had the time for match making, listening to your heart break stories and things like that, but really, I couldn't care less if you just got dumped when I have two lives depending on me.

Its important to keep in touch and reconnect, have a good laugh and relax....but really if you want me to listen to your tall tales of depression then am sorry, I need to be around happy people when I get the time.

5. LISTEN

When people see you with a kid (two kids in my case), they feel the need to advice you, just listen to them without interrupting, they might not be parenting genius (not even a parent at times) but they only mean well, so just listen to them that's all am saying  because snapping at them at that time no matter however ridiculous their theory might be is the most disheartening thing you could do.

Sometimes, my husband comes up with such non sense ideas (like don't use NO in conversation with them which is clearly impossible NO?) but I listen to him.

So I guess, I have enlightened the crowd enough for one night, time to sleep while I still can.
Feel like a Parenting Guru.