Being Polite

I never understood what is being polite in the Indian context in the 23 years of my life brought up as a desi kid in Kuwait. I am really confused, because what I think is pushy or clingy is considered as being nice and polite. May be I am not kind enough or may be I just don’t care enough but believe me once I understand the difference ill try.

We have guest coming in to our house without any prior notifications at odd hours of the day, even in hotels u need prior reservations but to my house ppl just drop by. The nicest of guests call from the parking lot under the building. I just cant thank them enough for giving me the time to change from my hello kitty night suit. So they manage to enter your house, you smile say your salaams *wonder y they came * wonder when they ill go *wonder y they dint call b4 coming etc etc but don’t say it out loud its ---->>bad manners<<---- !!!

And my mom’s rule: no one leaves the house without eating if its lunch or dinner time, tea will be served at any given time with all sorts of side items. And if the guest dares to say no he/she / the group will be pinned down n emotionally black mailed to have more n more. I fail to see why, Really!!!
I ask my mom why don’t u just not bother its not like we invited them. She obviously thinks am a social stigma.

Once an “aunty” came (uninvited of course) announced that she is too tired out of visiting so many people on Eid and would like to take a nap at our house. She goes into my sisters’ room asks her to vacate it switches the room heater on..lights off...pulls the blanket to her head n wakes up after three hours. Outrageous of course more coz me n my sister had to engage in a forced conversation with her kids while burying our plans of a beachside barbeque.
Sometimes I wonder are we just too good or do we know only bizarre people??

I am not a hater or a loner who doesn’t like to socialize. I can prove to be an amazing host if I have invited you over, ill make sure your plate is never empty and you eat as much as your appetite allows and have the best time. But just don t expect me to “be polite” in the way of forcing u to have more…or allowing you to watch your favorite news channel for hours or by not stopping your kids from wiping their noses on the curtains. Period.